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Choosing Words Wisely

12 Thursday Sep 2013

Posted by Susan E. Craig in Childhood Behavior, children's mental health, Language Development, Overcoming trauma, trauma sensitive schools, Uncategorized

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Words of Wisdom 3d Words Advice InformationTalking to children is a pretty active sport. It involves so much more than the content being conveyed. When an adult names a child “a great poet” or “mathematical wiz” the chances of those traits becoming part of the child’s identity go up. Why? Because an adult’s choice of words is powerful. Words shape children’s perception of themselves, and offers important information about the nature of the adult-child relationship.

What we say to children reflects what we think of them. If we expect them to have insights and opinions about their experience, we will speak to them in a manner that invites dialog. If we want to empower them, we will ask questions that foster personal agency and control – “How did you do that?” “What made you come up with that idea?” “Can you show me how it works?”

The right choice of words creates an environment where children tell stories in which they are powerful protagonists. With each story told they grow more certain of their ability to meet everyday challenges. This self-confidence is an important resource for all children, particularly those whose lives are stressful or filled with adversity. It encourages them to think strategically, and find new ways to solve problems. They become less likely to give up easily, and as a result often show marked improvement in academic tasks.

For more information about how to arrange for children to tell you stories of personal agency and control, check out the book Choice Words by Peter Johnston (2004). It’s a must read for anyone working in trauma-sensitive schools.

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ACTing for Children

23 Thursday May 2013

Posted by Susan E. Craig in ACE Study, CEV, Childhood Behavior, children's mental health, Overcoming trauma, stress management, trauma sensitive schools, Uncategorized

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Act NOW! keyboard key. FingerThe news about our children’s mental health and well-being is chilling. In the last week there are reports that almost half of the nation’s children (34,825,978) have experienced one or more types of severe childhood trauma (National Survey of Children’s Mental Health), 13% to20% of children and youth under 18 years old have diagnosed mental disorders (Center for Disease Control), and at least 10% of the children sampled in the recently released National Survey of Children Exposed to Violence II (NatSCEV II) suffered seven or more different types of victimization within the last year.

It’s not hard to imagine how such high rates of adversity effect children’s learning, behavior, and emotional control. What’s difficult is knowing how to reverse the trend. The Acknowledge, Connect, Teach (ACT) strategy provides some ideas about how to get started.

Acknowledge

Bearing witness to the adversity in children’s lives is not easy. Survivor children are often judged harshly when their behavior puts them at odds with those in authority. Society as a whole prefers to see them as perpetrators not victims, as violent not violated, and as antisocial not anxious. Taking a stand for them requires courage. And a willingness to shift the blame for their failures toward those responsible for their care. Someone needs to speak on their behalf, to ask “what happened to you?” rather than “what did you do?”

Connect

Positive relationships with children begin with showing an interest in who they are. Connections are made when adults listen to children’s stories and cultivate their dreams. Repeated opportunities to collaborate with caring adults give children the support they need to develop their strengths. They grow more confident in their ability to make good choices and try out new behaviors. Though progress is sometimes slow, and relapses common, the long-term commitment of emotionally available adults is an invaluable resource for children struggling to overcome early adversity.

Teach

The ability of children with early trauma histories to achieve social and academic competency is seriously compromised by their diffuse sense of self, and powerless explanatory narrative. Helping them overcome these obstacles requires teaching them how to use their strengths to make a  difference.  Service learning allows children to acquire a more defined self-definition. Their sense of personal agency improves as they observe the impact of their good deeds on other people’s lives. They grow more aware of their ability to respond in caring, respectful ways. This helps them mobilize their inner resources to turn toward the future, trying out new roles, and increasing their capacity to learn.

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